Beth Stelling je objavila fotografije s namjerom podizanja svijesti o naselju u obitelji
Beth Stelling odlučila je javno progovoriti o zlostavljanju koje je doživjela od strane bivšeg dečka. Na svom je profilu na Instagramu objavila nekoliko fotografija svojih ruku i nogu prekrivenih modricama.
Same girl in all of these photos (me). I've had an amazing year and you've seen the highlights here, so these photos are an uncommon thing to share but not an uncommon issue. You may be weirded out but do read on. I have a point. There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because of this. And I absolutely relapsed and contacted him with things I shouldn’t have, but there are no “best practices” with this. When friends or comics ask why we broke up it's not easy or comfortable to reply; it doesn't seem like the appropriate thing to say at a stand-up show, a party or a wedding. It's embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It's not simple. After I broke up with him he said, "You're very open and honest in your stand-up, and I just ask that you consider me when you talk about your ex because everyone knows who you're talking about." And I abided. I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn't want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family. I wanted to move on and forget because I didn’t understand. I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life. It's how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I've always been; I make dark, funny. So now I'm allowing this to be part of my story. It's not my only story, so please don't let it be. If you live in L.A., you've already started to hear my jokes about this and I ask you to have the courage to listen and accept it because I’m trying. Already since talking about this onstage, many women have come to me after shows asking me to keep doing it. Men have shown their solidarity. An ex-girlfriend of this ex-boyfriend came to me and shared that she experienced the same fate. Then there was another and another (men and women) who shared other injustices at his hand that..
'Ovog ljeta prekinula sam s dečkom ne zato jer ga nisam voljela već zbog ovoga. Kad me pitaju zašto smo prekinuli nije lako odgovoriti na to pitanje. Neugodno mi je. Osjećam se glupo. Nakon što me verbalno i fizički zlostavljao i silovao, bila sam s njim još nekoliko mjeseci nakon svega toga. Nije to tako jednostavno. Nakon što smo prekinuli rekao mi je da dobro razmislim hoću li ga spominjati u svojim stand up nastupima budući da je on isto stan up komičar. Nisam pričala o njemu jer oboje živio u Los Angelesu i nisam ga željela povrijediti, navući njegov bijes i bijes njegovih prijatelja, možda zaraditi tužbu. Željela sam nastaviti sa svojim životom i zaboraviti na sve to. Ni sada ne želim osvetu ili mu nauditi, ali nezdravo je to držati u sebi. Moj posao je u tome da izvlačim inspiraciju iz svog života. Sada tome dozvoljavam da bude dio mog života. Ovo nije jedini dio mog života, pa me molim vas, nemojte samo tako ni doživljavati. Ako ste nedavno slušali moje nastupe, mogli ste čuti šale na tu temu. Mnoge su žene koje su pretrpjele slično došle do mene nakon nastupa i zamolile me da nastavim raditi to što radim, baš kao i mnogi muškarci', napisala je u opisu fotografije.
Beth je objavila fotografije s namjerom podizanja svijesti o nasilju u obitelji te kako bi ohrabrila druge žrtve da prekinu šutnju.